A Quiet Resource Library
These essays present foundational material on the introvert “winning recipe” and how best to detach from it. Thank you for reading.
Overview
Essay 01
Your winning recipe feels great. But over time it can be a highly unsatisfying way to live.
Overview
Essay 02
You created your recipe when you were perhaps under five years of age. It helps to know what sparked it.
Overview
Essay 03
Every winning recipe has three moving parts. Knowing what they are gives you access to their controls.
Protecting Relationships
Essay 04
Your winning recipe and relationships do not mix well. But you can get your recipe to quiet down.
Protecting Relationships
Essay 05
The only way you can be authentic with another person is to consciously step outside of your winning recipe.
Protecting Relationships
Essay 06
A crisis can drive you so deeply into your winning recipe that it may make you seem fickle as a partner.
Reducing Fear
Essay 07
The meaning you assign to a situation drives your fear about it. Going beyond your winning recipe can help.
Reducing Fear
Essay 08
When your winning recipe runs wild in the face of fear someone you trust can interrupt the cycle.
Reducing Fear
Essay 09
Your winning recipe keeps you dangerously focused on your internal world. The external world matters too.
Reducing Fear
Essay 10
You are not your winning recipe. You are its observer, and that gives you some leverage over it.
Avoiding Danger
Essay 11
A little voice will likely tell you when your winning recipe is leading you down the wrong path. Listen to it.
Avoiding Danger
Essay 12
You are focused on your inner world. But dangerous surprises could be hiding in plain sight.
Avoiding Danger
Essay 13
Focusing your mind on the present is hard. But it allows you to discover things that could be dangerous.
Avoiding Danger
Essay 14
Looking behind the scenes can keep you safe. But your recipe is not interested in having you do that.
Managing Grief
Essay 15
Grieving for a lost dream can make you feel like a victim. Being at cause in the matter can free you.
Managing Grief
Essay 16
What you get in life is what you intend. Instead of grieving for a lost future, intend a new one for yourself.
Managing Grief
Essay 17
Your recipe is no help in resolving grief. But accelerating your movement into acceptance can help a great deal.
Managing Grief
Essay 18
Resisting grief only makes it persist. Giving up resistance it can make it slowly lessen.
Overcoming Disaster
Essay 19
In a calamity your recipe is too rigid to be of help. Instead, ask how you can use the disaster as an advantage.
Overcoming Disaster
Essay 20
The answer to a disaster is not your recipe, but the constant completion of small, random tasks.
Overcoming Disaster
Essay 21
Create the present moment not based on your winning recipe, but based on a compelling future.
Overcoming Disaster
Essay 22
Listening to other people instead of to your recipe can help you extricate yourself from a disaster.
Detaching From the Recipe
Essay 23
Despite what your recipe says, you are an introvert. Declare that as your new context.
Detaching From the Recipe
Essay 24
When you choose a treasured relationship over your recipe you will lessen from the recipe's grip.
Detaching From the Recipe
Essay 25
You created your recipe to overcome a flaw. Take that shortcoming away and you short-circuit the recipe.
