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Detaching From the Recipe

Feeling Whole Can Detach You From Your Winning Recipe

You created your recipe to overcome a flaw. Take that shortcoming away and you short-circuit the recipe.

Detaching From the Recipe

A Relationship You Honor Can Detach You From Your Winning Recipe

When you choose a treasured relationship over your recipe you will lessen from the recipe’s grip.

Detaching From the Recipe

A New Context Can Detach You From Your Winning Recipe

Despite what your recipe says, you are an introvert. Declare that as your new context.

Overcoming Disaster

Listening Can Destabilize Your Winning Recipe And Defuse A Disaster

Listening to other people instead of to your recipe can help you extricate yourself from a disaster.

Overcoming Disaster

Possibility Can Dilute Your Winning Recipe And Counteract Disaster

Create the present moment not based on your winning recipe, but based on a compelling future.

Overcoming Disaster

Completions Can Weaken Your Winning Recipe And Offset Disaster

The answer to a disaster is not your recipe, but the constant completion of small, random tasks.

Overcoming Disaster

Opportunity Can Undercut Your Winning Recipe And Neutralize Disaster

In a calamity your recipe is too rigid to be of help. Instead, ask how you can use the disaster as an advantage.

Managing Grief

Non-Resistance Outdoes Your Winning Recipe And Subdues Grief

Resisting grief only makes it persist. Giving up resistance it can make it slowly lessen.

Managing Grief

Acceptance Outshines Your Winning Recipe And Handles Grief

Your recipe is no help in resolving grief. But accelerating your movement into acceptance can help a great deal.

Managing Grief

Intention Surpasses Your Winning Recipe And Copes With Grief

What you get in life is what you intend. Instead of grieving for a lost future, intend a new one for yourself.

Managing Grief

Responsibility Transcends Your Winning Recipe And Manages Grief

Grieving for a lost dream can make you feel like a victim. Being at cause in the matter can free you.

Avoiding Danger

Insight Can Bypass Your Winning Recipe And Lessen Danger

Looking behind the scenes can keep you safe. But your recipe is not interested in having you do that.

Avoiding Danger

Being Present Can Inhibit Your Winning Recipe And Reduce Danger

Focusing your mind on the present is hard. But it allows you to discover things that could be dangerous.

Avoiding Danger

Curiosity Can Dull Your Winning Recipe And Sidestep Danger

You are focused on your inner world. But dangerous surprises could be hiding in plain sight.

Avoiding Danger

The Truth Can Skirt Your Winning Recipe And Avoid Danger

A little voice will likely tell you when your winning recipe is leading you down the wrong path. Listen to it.

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Reducing Fear

A New Context Can Neutralize Your Winning Recipe And Decrease Fear

You are not your winning recipe. You are its observer, and that gives you some leverage over it.

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Reducing Fear

A Unified Awareness Can Defuse Your Winning Recipe And Diminish Fear

Your winning recipe keeps you dangerously focused on your internal world. The external world matters too.

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Reducing Fear

A Trusted Person Can Counteract Your Winning Recipe and Reduce Fear

When your winning recipe runs wild in the face of fear someone you trust can interrupt the cycle.

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Reducing Fear

Meanings You Create Can Offset Your Winning Recipe And Lessen Fear

The meaning you assign to a situation drives your fear about it. Going beyond your winning recipe can help.

Protecting Relationships

The Reliability Issue In Your Winning Recipe – How To Shrink Its Power

A crisis can drive you so deeply into your winning recipe that it may make you seem fickle as a partner.

Protecting Relationships

The Authenticity Issue In Your Winning Recipe – How To Lower Its Effect

The only way you can be authentic with another person is to consciously step outside of your winning recipe.

Protecting Relationships

The Focus Issue In Your Winning Recipe – How To Reduce Its Impact

Your winning recipe and relationships do not mix well. But you can get your recipe to quiet down.

Overview

The Inner Controls Of Your Winning Recipe – How To Lay Them Bare

Every winning recipe has three moving parts. Knowing what they are gives you access to their controls.

Overview

How To Discover The Incident That Likely Triggered Your Winning Recipe

You created your recipe when you were perhaps under five years of age. It helps to know what sparked it.

We introverts sit inside our "winning recipes."
Overview

Every Introvert Has A Harmful “Winning Recipe.” Here Is What To Do.

Your winning recipe feels great. But over time it can be a highly unsatisfying way to live.

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